Two minutes with … Natalie Decorte, mama to Indigo, aged 6 years, Blaise, aged 4 years and baby #3 due in April 

Two minutes with … Natalie Decorte, mama to Indigo, aged 6 years, Blaise, aged 4 years and baby #3 due in April 

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

I am currently enjoying some “me-time” with my Husband for my 35th Birthday. Just a few days out of town without kids….

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care? 

Yoga is my regular self care routine. I try to get to 3-4 classes a week. I also try to do a short meditation before or after each class. I love a long bath at home with a face mask finished with a body scrub. Or even just a 20 minute cup of tea with a good magazine. Having a healthy relationship with your partner/husband is also so important to a functioning family. We try to do a date night once a week. Even if it’s just at home, cooking a special meal together. No distractions being present and being intimate with each other.

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself? 

It’s really about shifting your own perception of me-time from an indulgence to a necessity. It’s a hard shift to make but once you realise you are a happier more productive Mother/ Wife/ Friend with just a small amount of me time it becomes easier to take that time out on a weekly or even daily basis. Accept help from friends and family. It can be daunting prepping for a few hours away from a newborn or a few days away from your kids. But you get better at it and realise not to sweat the small stuff! Your children become more adaptable too. 

Two minutes with … Tracey Spicer, mama to Taj, aged 11 years and Grace, aged 10 years

Two minutes with … Tracey Spicer, mama to Taj, aged 11 years and Grace, aged 10 years

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

My resolution this year was to become more selfish, mwahahaha! Fortunately, it coincided with eight months spent writing a book. I’d walk the kids to the bus stop, tap away at the computer for a few hours, go for a paddleboard, then work until the kids arrived home from school. Hubby and I share the childcare 50/50, so we each have time solo. It’s important for our mental health. We’re lucky to work freelance.

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care? 

Ooh, reading, reading and reading! I could spend days on the couch with my nose in a book, only rising to eat and ablute. 

Gardening is also relaxing. We have a thriving veggie patch in the backyard, although the largest plants at the moment are the weeds.

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself? 

Don’t apologise for being selfish. You need your own space. And make sure everyone else in the household does their fair share. We make the kids do most of the housework. I know it’s tough when they’re little. But Grace and Taj are capable of just about anything, inside or outside. (Except for mowing. Maybe next year…)

Two minutes with … Lina, mama to Jasmine aged, 4.5 years, Hazel, aged 3 years and Austin, aged 16 months

Two minutes with … Lina, mama to Jasmine aged, 4.5 years, Hazel, aged 3 years and Austin, aged 16 months

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

I love massage and can’t live without my lash extensions. So whenever I need to refill my lashes, I will make sure I also have a massage beforehand. That would be 2 hours me-time for every 5/6 weeks.

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care? 

Apart from the above, I do like sitting in my favourite coffee shop, enjoying my coffee, reading the news or just watching the world goes by… bliss. 

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

Sit your husband down, (with his whiskey) and get him to agree to your “me time” schedule at least once a month! If he can’t do it (hide his whiskey) get a trusted baby sitter. Worth every penny!!!!

Two minutes with … Alexa Bui, mama to Bean, aged 4 years and Bear, aged 17 months 

Two minutes with … Alexa Bui, mama to Bean, aged 4 years and Bear, aged 17 months 

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

I like to make sure I have some ‘me-time’ every day. It really helps that I have my mom close by, a hands-on hubby and a nanny! ‘Me-time’ could be as simple as a shower where no one is yelling for me 🙂

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

I try to work out twice a week. Feeling fit and taking care of myself puts me in a better mood, not to mention it helps maintain the stamina I need to chase after the little ones! 

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

Don’t be afraid to ask for help! I know so many moms that want to do it all but honestly, I’d rather do a few things really well than do them all! I try to attend all the school functions but if I really can’t make it, I won’t beat myself up over that.

Two minutes with … Alison Daddo, mama to Lotus, aged 20 years, River, aged 16 years and Bodhi, aged 10 years

Two minutes with … Alison Daddo, mama to Lotus, aged 20 years, River, aged 16 years and Bodhi, aged 10 years

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

I had to think about this, because I had time alone today knitting some socks for a friend’s birthday, is that “me time”? It’s pleasant and soothing and it’s quiet, so therefore it does me good, but it was doing something for someone else, which as you know as Mothers that’s our beginning, middle and end. Though knitting is absolutely one of my soothing helpful remedies, so I would say it was some “me time”!

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

It probably sounds ridiculous, but getting my legs waxed. It’s only been in the last 5 years or so that I’ve started doing it, it hurts like hell, but I’m so happy afterwards, and not having to think about hairy legs for 6 weeks feels like a load off. 

Self care is really something I need more practice at, hence why your Instagram account appealed to me so much, I thought, now maybe I can get some tips! 

Something I’ve also just begun is meditating.  Deepak Chopra offers free 21 day meditation courses every so often that you download onto your phone or computer. They are only 20 minutes and they are just beautiful. I feel so much more relaxed after I listen to them – just lie back and listen – easy. 

Sometimes cleaning feels like self care, which sounds like an oxymoron, but when I’m feeling ratty and ungrounded, if I clean a space in my home I feel like I cleaned a space in my brain. Adding music while I do it helps also.

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

The first thing I would say to struggling mamas is, “You are not alone!”. I actually write lists for my day and amongst all the chores and items I add something for just me, “sit and have tea”, “write in journal”, “go for a walk”. Sometimes it’s the bigger things that are the hardest, like getting up and about and heading to the gym, sure I always feel better afterwards, but sometimes I’m just too pushed for time or just too tired. 

One thing I do on my way to pick up my kids from school, is roll down the windows and turn my favourite song up loud – just that can feel so good to me. 

When you have little guys that are not in school, your time is really not your own, and sometimes (nearly always) your only free time is once they have gone to bed. By then I was usually so tired I would curl up on the couch in front of the TV or go to bed with a good book. If you are lucky enough to have family or friends who can take your little ones for a bit, do it! Even just an hour in the day when you can just sit, not catch up on errands, but just sit, take in some good deep breaths and let yourself relax. It’s sounds so much easier than it is. 

The good old bath with some lavender oil always helps, actually lavender oil anywhere, anytime helps me relax. 

Sometimes it’s just the simplest of things, just allowing yourself to sit WITHOUT feeling guilty for the load of laundry or not having dinner ready, the house all tidy. I know what you’ve done all day, you’ve kept an entire human safe, fed, amused and alive! Exhausting:) So giving yourself a break without the guilt can really help.