Two minutes with … Kerry Stanfield, mama to Brecken, aged 2 years old and Summit, aged 4 months 

Two minutes with … Kerry Stanfield, mama to Brecken, aged 2 years old and Summit, aged 4 months 

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

I am not the most motivated when it comes to housework, so I tend to use nap time as “me time” whenever both kids happen to nap at the same time. I’d love to say I feel guilty about relaxing instead of getting other stuff done, but I don’t. I need “me time” in order to survive. So, right now, during nap time, I’m taking time to answer these questions and watching “Master of None” on Netflix. It’s much more fun than folding laundry.

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

I practice self-care by taking time to shower every night before I go to bed; it makes me feel human. I’m also trying to get into some kind of exercise; although, it’s been hard with two young kids and a husband who’s busy running a new business. Kicking up my feet and watching a little television or working with my plants also helps me feel like myself instead of just a mother taking care of other people all the time. 

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

I don’t know if I really have advice to give other moms. Being a parent is hard, whether you work or stay home with your kids. It drains you and sometimes it’s hard to remember who you really are under all the parenting and momming in your daily life. Taking time for my own hobbies and interests helps me. I HAVE to take some time for myself every single day somehow. Whether that’s just skimming my phone before bed, watching Bravo during nap time, or leaving the kids with my husband so I can do some solo adventuring.

Two minutes with … Kate Korber, mama to Ella, aged 5 years and Hudson, aged 3 years

Two minutes with … Kate Korber, mama to Ella, aged 5 years and Hudson, aged 3 years

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

Me Time is a rarity in our house as I’m always running around either doing school work, print work, blog work or housework! A couple of months ago I was able to jet off to Sydney for the weekend with two of my best friends. Our three families own a business together and the three Dads took six kids down to the beach for the weekend whilst we were away. It was just lovely to shop together, lay in bed chatting like teenagers and just do what we wanted. I honestly truly believe that if we do not take care of ourselves then we cannot be great Mums. Our children need to learn that it is ok to be away from Mum every now and again, and it is equally important for Mums to have their space!

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

I’ve struggled with anxiety, particularly since my Dad passed away suddenly last year. Our son has also been a real challenge with sleep and I’ve gone crazy trying to keep on top of things with little to no sleep myself! I’ve learned about breathing techniques and use mindful meditations when I go to bed. There are so many great apps but I find Smiling Minds to be the best. I’ve also learnt to just stop and be mindful of how I’m feeling. If I’m feeling tense, or about to lose it then I try to notice these feelings and just repeat positive thoughts to myself. Initially I found this a little weird, but it actually works!

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

Look ahead in your calendar and plan it in. Even if it is a walk for an hour. I find having something to work towards a real motivator. Even if it getting my hair done in three weeks time!

Kate is a Primary Teacher, blogger @happyellaafter and designer of Name It Prints over at www.happyellaafter.com.au.

Two minutes with … Megan Hess, mama to Gwyn, aged 11 years and Will, aged 7 years

Two minutes with … Megan Hess, mama to Gwyn, aged 11 years and Will, aged 7 years

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

My ‘Me time’ is usually a glass of wine with my husband at the end of the day after we’ve put our kids to bed. Its the time of day we just relax and chat about our days.

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

I’m a big fan of meditation. In the beginning I found it really hard to do but I can now do 20 minutes a day and I feel like it completely resets my mind and body. I really believe that you need to take care of yourself in order to be able to take care of others.

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself? 

I think take the first small step. Blocking out an entire day might be hard to make happen, so start small. Everyone can make 15 minutes for themselves a day and once you have that a regular routine then slowly increase the amount of time. Not only will you be in the practice of taking time for yourself, your family will also adjust and know that it’s your time. As Mums, we always put everyone else first so we have to be strong and committed to making the time for ourselves.

Two minutes with … Prue Henschke, mama to boys aged 3.5 years and 17 months 

Two minutes with … Prue Henschke, mama to boys aged 3.5 years and 17 months 

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time? 

Last night at my local hardware store. They were hosting a Mothers Day event which included 10 minute relaxation massages for mums. I love finding new and varied ways to spend me-time and this was certainly that! 

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care? 

Practising meditation and yoga, journalling, taking naps (I haven’t slept 8 hours in more than 3 years!), eating organic wholefoods (and acai bowls?) drinking plenty of water (and cups of herbal tea) and spending time outdoors (and in particular at the beach). 

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself? 

The biggest shift for me with me-time was when I changed my mindset and started prioritising taking care of myself. I quickly realised that excuses I had previously made like “I don’t have time” or “I don’t have money” or “I can’t ask for help” weren’t real. 

Small and often I feel is key for me-time. I had a tendency to adopt an all or nothing approach to me-time when I had my first son. I would say to myself if I can’t meditate for 20 minutes (like I did pre-kids) what’s the point. This attitude didn’t serve me and I’m continuing to work on being more flexible and creative with my me-time. I now look for and take every opportunity I can for some me-time, like meditating for a few minutes in the mornings, listening to inspiring podcasts when I’m out with the boys asleep in the car or going to activities with my boys, but which also fill my cup, like catching up with mama friends. 5-10 minutes of me-time is incredibly valuable for keeping you healthy and happy. 

Two minutes with … Richelle Davis, mama to Ryon, aged 9 years, Jaxon, aged 6 years and Quinton, aged 4 years

Two minutes with … Richelle Davis, mama to Ryon, aged 9 years, Jaxon, aged 6 years and Quinton, aged 4 years

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

I hardly ever get “me” time.. for longer than 20 minutes. I’m on “the job” 24/7. But tonight, my husband told me he would do the dishes after dinner so I could run to a local boutique I like to shop at, and shop in peace. That was nice. I could browse around and try on clothes without my mini maniacs running a muck in the store or fighting about who gets to sit in the chair. ?

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

Taking care of yourself can look different for everyone. I like to shop…even if I don’t buy anything. I like to let my creative juices flow..by doing something artistic, like drawing, or teaching myself to play the guitar, or playing dress up in my closet and ending up reorganizing it. I like to clean out cupboards or closets…because it makes my like feel less messy and hectic. Going to the gym is a way for me to practice self care. Taking care of my body, building strength and endurance, help release stress and anxiety. I also like to go on date nights with my husband when ever we can. Nurturing our relationship is important to me…and our children. Being able to connect and have uninterrupted conversations are crucial to our relationship, and my self care. 

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

Advice? I don’t have great advice for moms who struggle to find time. I guess I’d say…find a babysitter. But I know that’s hard for some people… 

I make time for myself in my schedule by prioritizing. Can the laundry wait a couple hours so I can hit the gym, and take a shower? Yes. Will I have everything done in the same day? No. Well. Sometimes. When I have a lot of energy…. I can do it all…. but other days… I’m a bump on along… and that’s OK! This probably doesn’t answer your question. But I warned you. I don’t have any advice. I’m just figuring it out as I go.