Two minutes with … Terri McHugh, mama to Liam, aged 8 years, Phoenix, aged 7 years and Avenleigh, aged 4 years 

Two minutes with … Terri McHugh, mama to Liam, aged 8 years, Phoenix, aged 7 years and Avenleigh, aged 4 years 

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

I feel very fortunate to say that my husband understands the importance of having a chance to “reset”, as I like to call it! So my “reset” or (“me time” as you say) moments happen at least once a week. 

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

Self care is all about how my soul is doing. I may be able to get away for a few and maybe indulge a little bit in the things I like, but if my soul is not doing well, there’s a big cloud of gray over whatever it is I’m trying to accomplish. Jesus is my answer to self care, always! 🙂 

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

Well first of all I would say, don’t look for me time as your only saving grace! If it takes a long time for it to happen (especially those mama’s of really young kiddos) you may feel defeated. Try to relish in the reality that you are so needed. Also, take an extra long shower, haha! Sometimes a long (and uninterrupted) shower is all the ‘me’ time I need! 

Hot stone massage, Harmony Relaxation Massage, Hampton, Victoria 

Hot stone massage, Harmony Relaxation Massage, Hampton, Victoria 

In an effort to maintain my massage a fortnight regime, and not stretch the family budget too much, I search through the discount websites Scoopon and Groupon from time to time. Often the services are simply too far for me to travel – my me-time is – like it is for all mamas – limited. When a deal in Hampton came up, being fairly close to home, I bought a voucher

Harmony Relaxation is a Chinese massage business in the main shopping precinct of Hampton. The business is no frills – a basic shopfront with curtained massage tables set to one side and massage chairs to the other. I was seen promptly for my appointment. The therapist started working on my back with oil and using repetitive strokes. She then introduced the hot stones. What set this massage apart for me was the work she did on my calves, feet, toes and palms of my hands. The pain in these areas was intense! I had no idea of the tightness/ tension I had in these areas. The massage overall was pretty good. 

I’ve learnt with many of the deal massage to realistically set my expectations. You are rarely going to find an inexpensive five star luxury experience. However if the massage itself, rather than the decor, ambience and customer service is what’s important to you, you can’t go wrong. 

Two minutes with … Tjin Lee, mama to Tyler, aged 4 years and Jake, aged 2 years 

Two minutes with … Tjin Lee, mama to Tyler, aged 4 years and Jake, aged 2 years 

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

The last quality “me” time was a girls’ trip to Bali. I spent a weekend with my two best friends, and indulged in spas, shopping, eating and just quality time with the girls. 

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

I make a little “me” time every day in small ways – like watching my favourite TV series after the boys have gone to sleep, or indulging in some trip-planning, which I find very therapeutic as travel is more than just vacation time for me, I draw inspiration from travel and it nourishes my soul. 

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

It doesn’t have to be big things, small every day pockets of self-love, doing something you enjoy, can also add up to helping you find yourself. 

Two minutes with … Bethany Ciotola, mama to Kai, aged 2.5 years and Rowan, aged 14 months

Two minutes with … Bethany Ciotola, mama to Kai, aged 2.5 years and Rowan, aged 14 months

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

“Me-time” has become a really rare thing these past few years, but it also makes it incredibly special and rewarding when I actually get some time to relax. The last day I had to myself was a couple of weeks ago when my mom came to the city and took the boys to the playground. I was able to get breakfast alone at a beautiful little french cafe. The cafe was empty and they were playing this beautiful, calm classical music. I had avocado toast and coffee and actually got to take my time & eat and drink everything which never happens when I go out to eat with the boys.

What are some of your favorite ways to practice self care?

I love taking time once the boys go to sleep to decompress with a glass of wine after a long day. I also take this time to answer emails, take a long hot shower and catch up with my husband. As hectic as a day with the boys can be, my “down” time from 8 pm – 10 pm really gives me the energy I need to do it all again the next day.

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

Making time for yourself is just as important as giving your kids 100%. You can’t be completely present for your children if you’re always stressed out. They can feel stress, and it’s not good for both you or them. By creating some “me-time” whether it be early in the A.M before they wake up, or at night once they go to sleep it can give you the energy and motivation to overcome the daily obstacles that come your way, or at least make them easier to deal with. I’m so much more patient with my boys if I’m able to relax at the end of the day. The dirty dishes can wait to be cleaned the next day, your sanity is more important.

Two minutes with … Maria Kang, mama to Christian, aged 8 years, Nicholas, aged 7 years and Gabriel, aged 5 years 

Two minutes with … Maria Kang, mama to Christian, aged 8 years, Nicholas, aged 7 years and Gabriel, aged 5 years 

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

Sunday is usually my ME TIME and that usually consists of me sleeping for hours after going to the farmers’ market, church and lunch. I love sleeping as it recharges me and I’m trying to catch up from years of having back-to-back kids and working late. Another thing I enjoy is reading. I can spend hours in my bed reading or at a bookstore. Obviously, another big ‘me time’ is exercise – I try to workout at least 4-5 times a week. Even when my days are incredibly busy, knowing that I did that ONE thing for myself, makes me feel better.

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

I think my best advice to others regarding self care is the realization that self care is a discipline. For example, recently I’ve been watching my diet more carefully because I want to feel leaner and more confident. It seemingly takes more effort and work to eat healthier (which is the opposite of ‘relaxing’) but disciplining my desires for long term goals is self care. This goes along with wanting to progress yourself physically, personally professionally. If you want to ‘care’ for yourself, there will be effort involved. My favorite ways to practice self care are exercising, writing, reading, getting a facial, being with friends or going to church.

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

I spoke to a mom recently who has a tough time exercising because she works often and has limited time with her daughter as it is. Leaving her to go to the gym creates more guilt. My best advice is to firstly, find a free No Excuse Mom group in your area where you can develop great friendships, workout and bring your children (who can train with you or around you). My next advice is to train when they are sleeping. Honestly, nothing beats getting a workout before the kids wake and before the mom guilt sets in. I have a pretty good mentality regarding ‘me time’ as I ensure I get time for girlfriend dinner dates and read after the kids go to bed. It’s all about prioritizing and understanding why it’s important.