Two minutes with … Joanna Vargas, mama to Odin, aged 11 years and Ruby, aged 4 years

Two minutes with … Joanna Vargas, mama to Odin, aged 11 years and Ruby, aged 4 years

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

I paint, so that’s my me-time – I usually paint at night once my kids go to bed for about an hour.

What are some of your favorite ways to practice self-care?

I just recently bought myself a Peloton bike and I love starting my day before my family at 6am with a class. It’s the best way to take care of myself. After that, I do a sheet mask in the AM after my shower while getting dressed and doing lunches for the kids. And I do facials every two weeks. 

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

I honestly take time for myself while the kids are asleep. It’s the only time I can guarantee not being interrupted. I always tell new moms that taking good care of yourself ensures you will be a better provider.

For more from Joanna, Celebrity Facialist and Founder of Joanna Vargas Salon and Skincare Collection visit www.joannavargas.com

Full body relaxation massage with oil, Dee Dee Thai Massage, Bentleigh 

Full body relaxation massage with oil, Dee Dee Thai Massage, Bentleigh 

Having purchased a deal for this massage through Groupon I booked well in advance, to ensure I got a date and time that suited. I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again, having a massage in the diary – even if it is a few weeks off – really helps having that me-time to look forward to. 

Dee Dee Thai massage is located in an eclectic suburban shopping strip in Bentleigh, Melbourne. The salon is small, but clean, with sweet touches like a bowl of water lilies under the massage table and frangipanis by the front door. On the day I visited I was the only client being seen, so the only noise was relaxing background music. 

I like to think I’m starting to become quite the Thai massage expert having had a fair few already this year. This massage started with work on my legs and then back. For this part of the massage, my therapist, Christy, did all the work – including using her knees, elbows and body weight to apply pressure. When I rolled over my legs and back were stretched with Christy’s help. 

Before the end of the massage the oil was cleaned off with a warm towel. Often oil massages I have had in the past, skip this step – which can make the trip home -on a hot day a bit slippery!  The massage finished with some more work on my back, head and neck while I was sitting on the table.  

Overall it was a great massage, especially for the price. The service was friendly and the location easy, with ample parking nearby. 

Cost – $38.24 for 1 hour (through Groupon and with an additional 15% off special offer)

Two minutes with … Tess Guinery, mama to Peaches, aged 3 years

Two minutes with … Tess Guinery, mama to Peaches, aged 3 years

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

I try have “me-time” every day – it’s not alway glamorous and it sometimes comes with a hustle, but it’s important whatever the scenario. 

Since Peaches was born, my husband and I decided that in her early years of childhood we’d aim for a routine that sees her to bed by 6:30pm every night. We haven’t always been routine people but learnt of its greatness in the early days of parenting. Not only do we live by the proverb “early to bed, early to rise” but also see the importance of a good and early nights sleep with its health and developmental benefits. It also partners with our little home life ethos of making time to be alone and time to build into our marriage. I can’t tell you how much this has helped the “me-time” and the “Love-time” escapades.  So every night I get a good three hours of bliss. I usually do something creative like write, design or sometimes just have a glass of vino and chill. It also gives me and my man time to connect. 

Otherwise I often take time to be alone on a Sunday morning with a beach walk and coffee – it refreshes my mind and makes my heart vibrant!

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

Making time for my passions. I truly believe this is one of the many avenues of self care. A lot of Mumma’s put there passions on the shelf (which is totally understandable) in motherhood. I truly believe that making time for our passions helps keep the heart healthy and essentially makes you a better mumma!

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

Before I had Peachy I needed a lot of alone time to survive, now I find I need a lot less (because alone time is less accessible). You don’t need a lot to fill your cup, but it’s important to schedule it in. I think night times can be a beautiful little time sanctuary if you are able or weekends if you have friends, family or a partner that can mind your tribe. Get up early and enjoy a walk before the demands begin. It’s easy not to make time amongst the motherhood hustle but it’s something you can’t not do or make happen to live with energy and a clear mind. Our cups need to be full so we can hand out love at it’s fullest to our babes! 

Think creatively, even if it’s just for an hour or for a cup of tea to let your thoughts dance about as they need – try make time. 

I find that my morning routine with Peach has two purposes. 1. Play time for Peach. 2. Headspace for me. Every day we get up walk to the coffee shop and then hit the beach or park. I enjoy this part of my day so much – Peaches is happy (mostly), we are outdoors, sipping cups of gold, enjoying each others company and I’m having some headspace whilst she plays and explores.

Two minutes with … Clair Meldrum, mama to Arie, aged 5 years and Milo, aged 3 years

Two minutes with … Clair Meldrum, mama to Arie, aged 5 years and Milo, aged 3 years

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

I found time today actually! I dropped my daughter off at school and my son (who refuses a day rest) FELL ASLEEP! I was so ill prepared all I could think to do was fire up the coffee machine and watch a chick flick with adult themes. It was a beautiful day. 

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

My ultimate self care is the hair salon. It’s a 5 weekly affair that I give the whole day to. Otherwise my best friend ( @kelreynolds) and I take every Thursday as our “day off”. We walk, eat, swim, shop, eat, get our nails done, catch a movie or just veg out… and eat. We try not to feel guilty about our “to do” lists because, as life gets fuller, what we SHOULD be doing is recharging. 

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

Sometimes I think we get this wrong. Just because we’re alone, doesn’t mean we’re refuelling the tank. Hardcore gym sessions; not relaxing (in my opinion). Doing the groceries alone; still working. Cramming in a chapter of a book before passing out at night; does not qualify. 

I’m recommending mindfulness. Stay with me, it’s not just for hippies. If you have 3 minutes to sit quietly and breathe in and out every day, you give your poor racing mind a little bit of respite. 

Switching a heavy workout with a yoga session is ideal. 

Find some water (beach, lake, waterfall, pool..) and be near it. Walk around it. Take a latte. 

POWER DOWN!! Turn your phone off sometimes. If the kids are safe in bed and the only calls your gonna get are telemarketers, just shut it down. Time away from social media and your schedule at night can be boring at first but be honest… when was the last time you were bored! You’ll probably sleep better and there is no greater way to love yourself than to let yourself rest. 

Two minutes with … Lee Sutherland, mama to Jet, aged 16 months

Two minutes with … Lee Sutherland, mama to Jet, aged 16 months

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

Oh gosh ‘me time’ isn’t getting much of a look in the last few months as I have about 8 weeks before I have my second bub so I am rather busy getting everything in order for my two businesses Fitness In The City clients/blog content and also Little Wildling Co (organic herbal teas) and getting in plenty of time with my 16 month old little boy Jet! Believe it or not, I get the same sense of ‘me time’ when I take my early AM and PM clients because I’m out of the house (sans baby!) or when I can sit down and reply to emails while Jet sleeps!!

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

This is always evolving and I’m more realistic (and accepting) now to what I can fit in!! So while I may not be able to get regular massages or do a week at a yoga surf retreat in Bali at the moment… I do things like ensuring I nourish my body with as much home made fresh, seasonal wholefoods because I know I’m a better version of my self when I use that as fuel rather than processed foods. I still enjoy relaxing baths and ‘indulge’ in gorgeous skin care afterwards. I take moments where the hubby is working from home to pop out for an hour to get fresh air or catch up with a girlfriend.  I try to meditate for at least 10 minutes whenever I can (or remember!!), its just grabbing a little time daily to be ‘me’ which is so important!!

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

It’s hard, especially if you don’t have family around like me to be instant babysitters for you BUT you have to make it work. I think getting at least an hour each day of ‘baby free time’ is so crucial and is what made my transition to my new role as a mum more swift. Of course not everyone has clients from 6-9am in the morning so the hubby can be home with the kiddies during that time before they go to work… but why not use that time to meet a friend out for a walk before your partner leaves for work instead? Or if you are doing it solo, get a regular 2 or so hour block each week where you have a babysitter come so you can do some solo tasks, to be you. I think it’s so important not to lose your identity. You a mum but you are still you (under the sleep deprivation and messy house!).