Two minutes with … Kyly Clarke, mama to Kelsey Lee, aged 6 months

Two minutes with … Kyly Clarke, mama to Kelsey Lee, aged 6 months

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

Let me think … haha, I actually took time to get a pedicure. I am a beauty therapist by trade, so even doing that, I find it hard to relax. I normally do them at home, and sure sometimes I am still answering emails when I have one at a salon, but I am learning to relax and try and just take in me-time. It’s a work in progress.

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

I do love a DIY facial.  I burn one of my candles on a relaxed Sunday to get me in the zone – my favourite right now is bamboo and clove.  I just chill in the bathroom while Kelsey Lee is asleep and  give my face a 101 cleanse, scrub and hydrating mask. I will even leave the mask on for a few hours and walk around the house with it.

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

That’s the word being scheduled, having a schedule, being organised and prioritising it. Once your baby is asleep, I know you need to clean the house, do laundry, puree, cook dinner etc, I get it, it’s hard, but there has to be one afternoon that you can spare 10-15mins just for you. I still find it hard, but I just try, because if I don’t give back to my mind and body then how can I be the best person with a clear mind to give to my baby, husband and business.

Kyly Clarke is the CEO and founder of Lyfestyled By Kyly Clarke and Author of “True to You”. 

Her beautiful candles and diffusers can be purchased via www.lshomewares.com.au

Two minutes with … Sarah, mama to Jane, aged 4 years, Abby, aged 3 years and Kate, aged 14 months. 

Two minutes with … Sarah, mama to Jane, aged 4 years, Abby, aged 3 years and Kate, aged 14 months. 

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

I try to have “me” time at least 2 evenings a week. I go running with a friend of mine. It gives us a chance to have girl talk and get a work out in. It’s a very important part of my week!


What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

My favorite ways to practice self care are through exercise and drawing. The exercise obviously helps me physically but also helps me feel more confident about myself. I also feel it is very important to be physically fit, so that I can keep up with my kids and not be limited by my health.

Drawing on the other hand is super therapeutic for me. It helps relieve stress and it is something that I am decent at. It important for me to have something that I can excel at that has nothing to do with parenting.


What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

I struggled for a long time creating “me” time. I have 3 very young kids and a husband who works long hours. Sometimes it’s just not possible to have real alone time. I have learned to make “me time” when I’m with my kids. I really love being outdoors so I incorporate it into our daily lives. It rejuvenates me and my kids. My kids can run around an open field and I can have a break from cleaning, cooking, or being peace maker. Something about open air allows my mind to be at ease and feel refreshed.

Two minutes with … Baylee Wood, mama to Preston, aged 4 and a half years and Hudson, aged 2 years 

Two minutes with … Baylee Wood, mama to Preston, aged 4 and a half years and Hudson, aged 2 years 

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

Hmm I’ve actually been quite unwell lately so I’ve had quite a bit of forced time to myself, while my extended family have been pitching in lots looking after my boys, so I can rest and recover but on Saturday I actually used a gift voucher I got for my birthday for a massage which was really nice.

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

I love doing yoga, it’s something that makes me feel so rested and energised. I feel like it awakens something within me making me feel like I can do anything. My absolute favourite thing is an early morning beach yoga session followed by a fresh smoothie. Even if my kids are running around hanging off me and all I get the chance to do is sit in stillness with my eyes closed and my palms open, practising my breathing, I feel so refreshed afterwards. It’s the best way to start the day. Although I must say I do not do this as often as I’d like. I should definitely work on that!

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

I believe that by living in alignment with your core values and pursuing a life that serves you, your whole life can become ‘me time’. However even the most successful mamas can get trapped by circumstances such as sickness, lack of sleep which can cause you to go into survival mode, where you put yourself on the bottom of your to do list.

The most important thing you can do is to get out of that ‘survival’ or ‘reactive’ mode of letting your circumstances control you and take control of your time and ultimately your life. Remind yourself that you can ask for help and nothing bad will happen if you get a babysitter for an hour so you can take a walk on the beach. You deserve it and your kids deserve the best of you.

I try to create ‘time chunks’ in my day where I will schedule in my daily planner (or iPhone calendar app) an hour or two of work dedicated to one task, then I will leave a gap in my schedule of five, ten or even fifteen minutes after the last one finishes before another work ‘time chunk’ begins. In that time I’ll get up, make myself a cuppa, go outside and play with my dog, call a friend etc. Those gaps in time give me a chance to catch my breath and centre myself so I don’t just turn into a slave to my work or kids.

I work from home but the same premise can be used for mamas who aren’t working. You can schedule time in your day to be productive and to nurture yourself as well. For example while my baby is napping, I’ll take 30 minutes for a cuppa and watch Ellen then I’ll get to folding the washing and prepping dinner. It might sound silly to schedule time in for these mundane things but I tend to get frozen by indecision. It’s like, ok I have two hours, I have so much to do, where do I start?!’ Then you spend all your time on one task instead of splitting your time wisely. It helps you to keep track of time and it helps you use your time more effectively.

Two minutes with …  Erin Brooks, mama to Sloane, aged 4 years and Adrienne, aged 2 years

Two minutes with …  Erin Brooks, mama to Sloane, aged 4 years and Adrienne, aged 2 years

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

Today! And I’m working. But, I’m working on a project for myself, I’m writing a book.

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

I try and take 30 minutes every single day to work out. Taking care of myself that way allows me to de-stress, and feel good about myself.

I also try and get out of the house with girlfriends for a quick bite, or a drink, once or twice a month. It’s so important to remember we’re women with friends, lives, and interests that include being mothers, but aren’t limited to motherhood. Sometimes that’s hard to remember, when you’re in the thick of it.

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

It’s not easy, especially with really little kids. And if you happen to be breastfeeding, it’s even more complicated. Me-time got a lot easier after I was finished breastfeeding my babies. I think you just have to force taking me-time and make it happen. It’s really easy to get so caught up in the day, you forget to even eat breakfast. So, take the 5 minutes and make yourself an egg, a cup of hot coffee, or a shake. Even if the kids are going crazy, fuel yourself and remember your needs are important too.

Two minutes with … Hailey Andresen, mama to Owen, aged 8 months

Two minutes with … Hailey Andresen, mama to Owen, aged 8 months

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

At the moment … I am early to hot yoga & waiting for the class to start! 

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

Yoga is a big one. I recently started it up again. 

I can’t emphasize enough how important “me-time” is for self care. 

My husband and I try to work out time for each other to be social or take time to be alone every week. 

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

It’s so difficult – especially when you’re exhausted and it feels like you don’t have an extra minute. I really believe it takes a significant other, a family member, or a close friend to help provide this time. I realize not everyone has that help, and if you don’t my advice would be, at the start or end of your day after your little ones are asleep or before they wake up do something for YOU. Don’t clean, don’t cook, don’t read up on parenting. Read a book that’s not parenting related, sit and be quiet, enjoy a glass of wine or cup of coffee, do something that YOU love. And if you do have help, try to schedule time each week for it. Start off slow and build up to what you and your little ones can handle.