Two minutes with … Natalie Comstock, mama to Talie, aged 15 months 

Two minutes with … Natalie Comstock, mama to Talie, aged 15 months 

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

The last time I some time for myself was just this afternoon. I took a couple hours to go to a local coffee shop to sip on something warm, listen to some tunes, and do some writing.

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

The ultimate self care practices that get me really aligned and high vibing tend to be any practices that tune me back into myself – my favorites are meditation, journaling, listening to podcasts, and reading. Music, movement, a massage, putting together a great outfit, and doing my nails are also little things that make me feel really good. Also, like my moms can probably relate, a glass of wine and a favorite TV show after my daughter goes down always helps me relax and wind down!

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

For me, it was a mindset shift of realizing that time for myself was a non-negotiable in order for me to show up at my fullest potential and give the best I had. I was tired of feeling at my worst and having that reflect in the way I engaged with people, especially my daughter. I say do whatever you have to do to make it a priority because in my experience, everything in life flows better when your own cup is full. Sometimes it’s easier to not make the time but it’s really a decision to just do it and I promise you’ll notice the difference once you do! I make sure to communicate with my husband about what I need and he’s really good about giving me blocks of time when he’s home to go do my thing. If you have people to help you, utilize them and don’t be afraid or feel guilty about asking for help – even if it means just to give you time and space to tend to yourself. If you don’t have help, see where you can create chunks in your day and prioritize the things that will light you up over the things you “should” do. Do something you enjoy during nap time, before the kids get up, or once they go down. Even if it’s something small, prioritizing yourself will always give you more momentum to do all the other things. 

Two minutes with … Charlie Boyce, mama to Orlando, aged 2 years (and with another baby on the way) 

Two minutes with … Charlie Boyce, mama to Orlando, aged 2 years (and with another baby on the way) 

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

I run a company as well as being a mum to Orlando so I try to get an hour to two of me time at the weekend. While Orlando sleeps I’ll leave him with my other half and either grab a quick swim at the beach or get some time to read, relax or some essential maintenance in the form of nails or hair.

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

A quick dip at the beach or some time in the sun feels like therapy! Walking the dogs or some time to shop makes me feel like my old self. For me it’s about having time when I’m being quiet or not answering questions, emails or stopping a toddler who is a whirlwind of energy from breaking things / himself or terrorizing the dogs. Anything that just involves my thoughts alone helps.

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

Taking ten minutes to sit down or asking for help when needed. I’m fortunate that we have someone to help and a hands on partner that loves his son and is happy to take him on adventures. Even having a long bath when kids are napping or in bed helps to create a sense of me time – it does for me anyway. 

Two minutes with … Elle Halliwell, mama to Tor, aged 10 months 

Two minutes with … Elle Halliwell, mama to Tor, aged 10 months 

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time? 

I’m so fortunate to have a lot of support from family, and my mother-in-law looks after my son two days a week. He’s in daycare the other two days, and I work at The Daily Telegraph four days per week. I took some time off last week, however, as I’m in the final stages of writing a book. I managed to sneak in a few hours one day to have my hair done, which was bliss!

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

I think daily rituals are important. Often my husband will look after our son after his morning gym sessions so I can enjoy a long shower or make myself a juice, and if everything aligns I can sometimes even fit in a yoga class before work.

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

Accepting offers of help from loved ones is important. Tor loves his godparents, grandparents and aunties and uncles and they’re often more than happy to spend an hour or two with him, so I can sometimes sneak in a break for myself while they spend time with him. Not everybody has that luxury, I know. When I was writing my book, I also found Occasional Care a great option as it gave me a few hours once or twice a week to get my work done, so that I could properly be in the moment with my son on the days in between.

Two minutes with … Michelle Kennedy, mama to Finlay, aged 3 years 

Two minutes with … Michelle Kennedy, mama to Finlay, aged 3 years 

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

I’ve just returned from a trip to India for one of my best friend’s wedding. The wedding and being around all of the people I love was obviously me-time, but to be honest, the best me-time was a 10 hour flight with no wifi! I caught up on reading, heaven! I even had a glass of wine, whilst Fin sat next to me giggling at the Minions movie.

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

Gosh, I am not brilliant at self care. I am more of a do as I say, not as I do. I find that pressure to make time for me, almost as stressful as not having time for me! (If that makes any sense). However, I try to do some key things. I make sure I go for a walk around the block every lunchtime, just to clear my head ready for the afternoon of work. And on a Friday night, the phone goes away. 8pm, if I can, I don’t check my phone until the morning, just to have some time with my husband, glass of wine, and a catch up on life.

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

You know, I really think we have to stop telling women that there is a balance-because as soon as you think there is a balance, and you don’t have one, you feel like you’re failing. I don’t have a balance, and I’m ok with that now. I am juggling constantly. Sometimes that means that I super mom, sometimes I am super boss, very occasionally, I am super good to myself. It’s just a juggle, and I think that’s ok. Making time for yourself doesn’t have to be extravagant, and it doesn’t have to be lengthy, it can simply be a resolute “today, I am going to pee in the bathroom, by myself, with the bathroom closed”, and when you do it, you will realise, the world hasn’t stopped because you’ve done so, you will feel empowered that you made it happen, and you’ve had me-time! (Whilst juggling everything else!)…small things matter, be kind to yourself about that, and don’t put unrealistic expectations on yourself about how much time you will dedicate to yourself. 

Two minutes with … Jessica Murnane, mama to Sid, aged 3 years 

Two minutes with … Jessica Murnane, mama to Sid, aged 3 years 

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

I went out for a three hour dinner with a friend last week, had fries + greens, drank a Aperol Spritz, and talked the night away. It was perfection! 

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

Being alone is my number one self-care practice. 

Between my podcast, consulting, and speaking…I’m always talking and engaging with people. I love my job so much, but I refuel by being alone. Which is crazy hard to do with a toddler! You’re never really alone. My husband and I have a deal that I get to be alone a few hours every weekend and he takes our son out or I go to a cafe or park and just chill, ALONE. I come back refueled and a better momma. 

Other self-care practices that are my favourites: taking a proper shower with good smelling things, putting my pajamas on at 6pm, and doing some type of movement (even if that means a YouTube yoga video in my bedroom). 

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

Every momma’s situation is different, so it’s hard to give advice. But across the board, I think we all can ask for/get help more. I know we think we can do it all, but there is no shame in asking for help. It could be as simple as asking your neighbor to hang in your house for an hour after your kid goes to bed so you can take a walk or finding a gym with childcare and go to the locker room and read for an hour (they don’t need to know you aren’t working out!) or if your budget is tight, splitting a sitter with a friend that also has kiddos. We need to feel less shame and guilt around getting help. 
I make time in my schedule by asking for help and also saying “no” to things I don’t really want to do. Does my husband and I both need to go to that birthday party? Nope. So he’ll go, I’ll get time to myself, and then take my son to the park later that day. And when my in-laws offer to take my son for a few days…I say yes. I ask for help and accept it whenever offered!