Two minutes with … Felisa Beesley, mama to Cleo, aged 3 years

Two minutes with … Felisa Beesley, mama to Cleo, aged 3 years

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

A few days ago. I make sure I schedule a monthly massage, otherwise I think I would fall apart. I definitely feel a lot of tension in my body after a month of sewing for my business. I use this time to reset for the month ahead. It is an hour and a half when I don’t have to think about anyone but myself- I love it! My husband works away from home for two weeks of every month, so I try to time this for just before he goes back to work.

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

I stretch every day and try to exercise at least twice a week. It might only be for ten minutes some days, but it still makes me feel good if I have done it. 

I am so lucky that we live just a couple of minutes walk from the beach, so having a quick swim and a laugh with my daughter or with a girlfriend makes me feel refreshed and relaxed.

When I am feeling stressed or overwhelmed, I actually enjoy sitting down after Cleo has gone to bed, pouring myself a glass of wine and writing my to do list for the for the following day. It puts things into perspective and allows me to wake up with a clear plan for the day ahead.

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

Never feel guilty about taking time for yourself, it makes you a better mum. Schedule it in and make sure your partner is on board. I don’t know any dad that misses out on his morning surf. Why should we miss out on our me-time? It is something that I have felt more comfortable with as my daughter has gotten older. Looking after yourself IS actually looking after your family.

Two minutes with … Poppy Lee Helem-Parry, mama to Seren, aged 18 months and Aderyn, aged 7 weeks 

Two minutes with … Poppy Lee Helem-Parry, mama to Seren, aged 18 months and Aderyn, aged 7 weeks 

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

To be honest it’s really not often that I get to have “me-time”! Over the day I’ll try to squeeze in a few moments here and there where I get to do something for me (put makeup on, make a cuppa, watch something on telly I feel like watching) but those moments are few and far between! When the girls go down for their day nap that’s when I have a chance to catch my breath again. 

Every few weeks I like to try to go shopping on my own, just having that time out is amazing!! I never though grocery shopping could actually become something so relaxing until I had babies haha! 

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

Every second month I’ll spend half a day at the hairdressers. That’s a nice little time out for me! Sometimes when it’s late at night I like to do my nails too. Just doing little things for yourself here and there makes you feel so much better and more in control. It’s important so you don’t feel like you’re letting go of yourself and forgetting who you are.

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

I’m one of those mamas so I’m not sure I can talk haha! Well, having a supportive partner makes a massive difference. My husband is amazing and makes sure I’m able to have time out when I need it, and vice versa. Neither of us have family in the city we live in so we really rely on each other heavily. We can tell when one side is getting burnt out. We plan ahead too. We let each other know when we need to have a moment to ourselves to catch up. Lets face it, if we’re burnt out, we’re not much good to our children so it’s important to take time out wherever you can. I’m looking forward to my baby being in more of a routine so I’m able to predict where we can have those moments of “me-time”! My next goal is to do a workout routine early in the morning before the babies wake up, that’ll be fabulous “me-time”! But I’ll give it another few weeks when my littlest one is sleeping a bit better…

Massage #2 – Remedial massage at Endota Spa, Mordialloc 

Massage #2 – Remedial massage at Endota Spa, Mordialloc 

I was gifted an Endota Spa voucher by my sister-in-law for Christmas. With my new regular massage regime in mind, I booked a few weeks in advance for a remedial massage at Endota Spa. Having the appointment booked in my diary  really did give me something to look forward to. In the past my massage appointments were more often than not spur of the moment, but knowing I had this coming up made harder days a bit easier to bear, funnily enough. Lesson number one from this exercise already learnt! 

I have visited various Endota Spas numerous times and have had a consistently positive experience. The staff are always friendly. The reception, waiting area and treatment rooms simple, clean and uncluttered. 

My therapist, Karen, quickly honed in on my problem areas and over the next hour worked mainly on my back, neck and shoulders (at my request) finishing with 10 minutes or so on my legs (and tight calves!) 

I enjoy remedial massage. I like to think the massage is releasing the tension by working at a fairly deep level. For that reason it can involve slight discomfort at times, but I’m happy to take that, for the longer term goal of maintaining my health. 

Cost – $120.00 for 1 hour 

Two minutes with … Amanda McMillan, mama to Mia, aged 9 years, and Ava, aged 8 years 

Two minutes with … Amanda McMillan, mama to Mia, aged 9 years, and Ava, aged 8 years 

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time? 

I can remember the exact time and place … what a disaster! I tried to have some “me-time” for the first time when my first little girl Mia was around 4 weeks old. I was desperate to have my hair coloured (I had not realised how much time and focus babies need in those first few weeks and my hair was out of control with grey. I also blamed her for the grey – lol). My husband Brent took care of Mia while I visited my local hairdresser. About 30 minutes into the colour being on my head Brent showed up with Mia screaming. She wouldn’t take the bottle and needed to be fed – immediately. I then proceeded to breastfeed Mia in the back room of the hairdresser with the colour still processing in my hair and me praying that it wouldn’t turn out bright red!!! Not quite the experience I had hoped for. By the time I had Ava (my second little girl) I had finally figured out that a beautiful walk alone on the beach was the “me-time” I really needed to fill my bucket – nothing to do with my hair.

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

For me self-care are those tiny moments and very small things I can do on a regular basis to fill my bucket. Over the years I have found it hard and often disappointing when trying to fit larger chunks of time in to dedicate to self-care and so I focus on the 5% things which make me happier each day. By tuning into these and implementing them into my day, I am able to re-charge and rejuvenate in order to show up the way I intend to more often than not.

The 5% things for me include a range of the following:

· Answering the question – what would make me 5% happier today (I have this on a sticky note at my front door so that it serves as a reminder every time I leave the house)

· Making a cup of tea for a friend

· Listening to an inspiring pod cast on the way to work

· Texting a message of gratitude to a friend or family member

· Walking in nature

· Picking flowers and having them in my house

· Smelling a candle

· Asking someone at the shop how they are and truly connecting with them

· Taking 5 minutes to colour or meditate

· Driving along the beach road on the way home from work

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

 The 5% things are so powerful for me (above). This approach has really changed my life and helped me ensure that I make “me-time” on a daily basis – for just 5 minutes. I have found that implementing large/dramatic changes have been difficult and often I have not been able to follow through on them consistently so the 5% feels more achievable for me and allows me to take small action everyday – no excuses.

I have also struggled with asking for the “me-time” if you need to rely on others for support in looking after children, businesses or commitments. In order to overcome this I set up time once a month for me at the start of the year so that it is “locked in” to the calendar. My husband and anyone else who plays a role in supporting this know from the outset of the year. They then hold me accountable for taking this time and I do the same for them. This approach alleviates the need to “ask” each time.

Two minutes with … Hayley Garnett, mama to Archer, aged almost 3 years

Two minutes with … Hayley Garnett, mama to Archer, aged almost 3 years

When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?

I had a day off of work last week and dropped my son off at daycare so that I could get things done around the house but also have ME time ! I spent the day doing mental household chores followed by taking some self portraits, editing photos, reading a good book and sipping on a cup of coffee! Heavenly, I tell you! 

What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?

My absolute favorite way to practice self care is to have a regular routine at the gym ! I was a fitness fanatic before getting pregnant but only recently returned to a regular gym schedule once my son turned 2 years old. Not only is it so important for me to release stress physically, but I feel so powerful when I have a bit of muscle! So dang WOMAN! 

What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?

My husband is a huge part of making my me-time happen. He is so very supportive and picks my son up from school on gym days and encourages me to go out with friends . Most importantly I think it’s setting a goal and overcoming the obstacles to get there. If worst came to worst then I could still go to the gym, I would just have to drop my son off in the child care room!