When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
I had to think about this, because I had time alone today knitting some socks for a friend’s birthday, is that “me time”? It’s pleasant and soothing and it’s quiet, so therefore it does me good, but it was doing something for someone else, which as you know as Mothers that’s our beginning, middle and end. Though knitting is absolutely one of my soothing helpful remedies, so I would say it was some “me time”!
What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?
It probably sounds ridiculous, but getting my legs waxed. It’s only been in the last 5 years or so that I’ve started doing it, it hurts like hell, but I’m so happy afterwards, and not having to think about hairy legs for 6 weeks feels like a load off.
Self care is really something I need more practice at, hence why your Instagram account appealed to me so much, I thought, now maybe I can get some tips!
Something I’ve also just begun is meditating. Deepak Chopra offers free 21 day meditation courses every so often that you download onto your phone or computer. They are only 20 minutes and they are just beautiful. I feel so much more relaxed after I listen to them – just lie back and listen – easy.
Sometimes cleaning feels like self care, which sounds like an oxymoron, but when I’m feeling ratty and ungrounded, if I clean a space in my home I feel like I cleaned a space in my brain. Adding music while I do it helps also.
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
The first thing I would say to struggling mamas is, “You are not alone!”. I actually write lists for my day and amongst all the chores and items I add something for just me, “sit and have tea”, “write in journal”, “go for a walk”. Sometimes it’s the bigger things that are the hardest, like getting up and about and heading to the gym, sure I always feel better afterwards, but sometimes I’m just too pushed for time or just too tired.
One thing I do on my way to pick up my kids from school, is roll down the windows and turn my favourite song up loud – just that can feel so good to me.
When you have little guys that are not in school, your time is really not your own, and sometimes (nearly always) your only free time is once they have gone to bed. By then I was usually so tired I would curl up on the couch in front of the TV or go to bed with a good book. If you are lucky enough to have family or friends who can take your little ones for a bit, do it! Even just an hour in the day when you can just sit, not catch up on errands, but just sit, take in some good deep breaths and let yourself relax. It’s sounds so much easier than it is.
The good old bath with some lavender oil always helps, actually lavender oil anywhere, anytime helps me relax.
Sometimes it’s just the simplest of things, just allowing yourself to sit WITHOUT feeling guilty for the load of laundry or not having dinner ready, the house all tidy. I know what you’ve done all day, you’ve kept an entire human safe, fed, amused and alive! Exhausting:) So giving yourself a break without the guilt can really help.