When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
I have different types of ‘me-time’, depending on what I need to fill me up. Sometimes my time is spent with girlfriends (or my tribe), reconnecting and being Naomi instead of Mama; sometimes I exercise and other times I spend time by myself in meditation or journalling. Having said that, the last time I had ‘me-time’ was this morning. I get up early (before my kids wake up) and set aside time to enjoy the quiet of the morning. This morning I meditated and set my intention for the day.
What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?
Meditation and writing are two of my favourite forms of self-care. I also love playing with my girlfriends, either having lunch or taking a beach walk.
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
My children are older now and I have to admit that I am much better at ‘me-time’ now than I was when they were babies. I had my first three children all under the age of 3 1/2 yrs and it was really tough. When I think back, I can’t even remember having time to myself. There were times I loved being a Mum and other times it felt exhausting. The one thing I do remember is that I always made time for catching up with girlfriends – this either looked like a catchup in person (with my kids in tow) or a catchup over the phone. My tribe kept me sane 🙂
When I first became a Mum I believed that I had to do everything myself. My example of mothering from the women in my family was one of martyrdom and I really believed that it was the way to BE. Over time I realised that this isn’t true. My advice for mamas who are struggling to create ‘me-time’ is that it is a must. The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child’ is so true. Most mamas in our culture are isolated and trying to juggle many hats with very little assistance. It’s just not how it’s meant to be. The number one ‘must’ is connection to tribe. Our natural instinct as women and mothers is to seek out other women as mentors and friends. Try to find ways to connect with other women and nurture those relationships. You can still have ‘me-time’ without having to hand your children over to someone else. Children adapt quickly to their environment and will work in with you and your priorities if you allow it. As my children grew and I got my ’s!*t’ together, I decided that I wanted my kids to know that it is OK to need time for their own SELF. What better way to teach them this than to model it myself.