When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
The past few weeks I’ve had an insane schedule with work and outside of that, to be totally honest, I’ve not allocated huge amounts of just ‘me-time’ as all I wanted to do was have cuddles with Jet. That said, I do make time each day to meditate and to physically exercise in some way be it running, cross training, yoga or walking. These two things alone help give me so much clarity.
What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?
Meditation, exercise, Tuesday ‘mask night’ (bit of skin care once a week which is easily forgotten with a busy schedule), and ensuring I switch off (technology, work, phones even) for at least an hour before bed so I can rest my mind and ensure I am not ticking over time.
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
Too often we try to do too much on our own, take on everyone else’s needs and put our own last. If you are aware that you’re doing this then start to look at what is happening in your life and schedule in the time just for you. If exercise is important then make sure there is a 30 minute block in the day when you can do it, it might mean rising an hour earlier, or getting into the swing of an efficient tag team with your partner or another mum with a bub. My sisters and I became great masters of this when we had our kids as it was such a vital aspect of maintaining our (sanity and) health. If time out with friends is what you need then do the same once per week so you have that time for you – to reconnect with your own essence, have belly laughs or warm teas and chats, whatever floats your boat.
A few key things will assist with finding me-time… these have helped me…
1. Define what it is that makes you feel more connected to you… reading a book, taking a walk, meditation on the beach, going for a facial, having a tea with a friend, having a sleep in or a nap.
2. Time block the day – morning exercise, getting ready, work, family (cuddles, cooking, homework, play time) news/social media, food creativity (away from work!), household chores, time with friends and having me-time can all be placed into hourly blocks. This is such a great way to manage time and ensure you aren’t spending unnecessary time doing things. If you’re working toward having me-time at 3pm and know what you’re doing each hour leading up to it then you’ll work more efficiently.
3. Reach out and ask and also just as importantly ACCEPT people’s help. We take so much on as parents and even when people offer to help we can easily feel like accepting their offer is an imposition on them. It’s not, it’s kindness, and kindness is a beautiful thing which more of us should accept. You are no lesser person for asking for help, just so you can have a little bit for you, in fact you’ll be a better person for it, so ask when you need it and in advance of when you do, so there is always time just for you.