When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
Last Saturday my mom and I spent the morning together going to breakfast and then got mani/pedis. It was a bit more indulgent than my typical “me time” outings, but it was the day before Mother’s Day so… we went for it! Usually we always bring the kids with us when we go out together, but it was so nice to connect with my mama with no distractions and just hang out as friends! I’m so excited to do the same with my girls someday when they are older.
What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?
With my first daughter, I barely ever left her. I always felt that getting away to have time for myself showed weakness, and I was trying so hard to prove that even though I was REALLY young, I didn’t need time for myself, because I was putting her first. I look back on that now and wish I could have told myself what I know now! By the time my second daughter was born, my tune changed drastically. I suddenly had a toddler and newborn that both needed me and used up every ounce of energy that I had, which wasn’t much. I craved alone time, and felt so guilty for it! Thankfully, my husband would encourage me to get out – for a pedicure, a quick Target trip, or even just a bubble bath upstairs alone while he dealt with the kids for a while. I soon realized I was a MUCH better mom and wife when I was taking this time for myself. Now that I have three kiddos – I feel no guilt at all, HA! I try to get out somewhere by myself once a week. It doesn’t ALWAYS happen, and sometimes it’s just reading a book upstairs for a bit while my husband hangs with the kiddos, but it’s SOMETHING and I always come out feeling like a whole new woman. Also: weekly date night has become a huge priority for us – sometimes it’s a pain finding a sitter, but it’s always so worth it to reconnect with the hubby and just be “us.”
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
My advice would be to just DO IT! Look at your calendar with your husband and find when you can take some time for yourself – some times of life are busier than others, but I find those are the weeks I need that time the most. Hire a sitter, do a trade with another mom, find a Mother’s Day out program if needs be, and just don’t feel guilty. If those options just aren’t in the budget or there really is no time, try putting those kids to bed early! Having our kids in bed by 7:30 has been a godsend, and that gives you a few hours without little people each night right there.