When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
I don’t get a lot of me-time, it’s so precious and rare when you’re a mum, isn’t it? But I am learning all the time how to be better at making the commitment to myself. The last me-time I had was actually yesterday! I went for a run around my local lake. I run solo, no music, just me, my thoughts, mumma nature… I find running outside a great escape from the day-to-day desk work and mum duties. I run for myself and although it might hurt, it sure feels great afterwards.
What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?
Oh I wish I was better at this. I would like to say I take a long soak every day, have facials or pedicures, massages and retreats but no! None of the above haha. What I do commit to, which for me has an enormous impact on my wellbeing, is a weekly yoga class at Humming Puppy in Sydney. It’s more than just a yoga class. Yes, it stretches out my body (which seriously needs it) but it is also so grounding and relaxing. I feel totally calm and blissed out afterwards. I go on Friday lunchtime and it’s the perfect way to punctuate the end of the working week and head into the weekend rejuvenated. It’s like a yoga class, day spa and long deep sleep all rolled into one, I love it.
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
OK, I can probably give advice better than I can take it! But I do know that, looking back, if I could change anything about how I was when my son was little, it would be to ask for some help, take some time out, just breathe. Care less about the state of the house and care more about the state of your mind. Talk to your partner so he or she understands the emotional and mental impact of being a new mum. Make sure they help you. Get outside, get some sunshine, get some exercise and get some friends round. Laugh. Sleep. Remember to be just you and not always ‘mummy’ every now and then. Otherwise you might go a bit crazy. I never ‘slept when the baby slept’ but I’ll offer that advice anyway 😉 A really good practical thing would be schedule in some weekly non-negotiable time for your baby/kids to just hang with Dad to give you the space to go get a coffee, sit in the backyard, take a bath whatever, without being interrupted or needed by anyone. Maybe make their swimming lessons on a Saturday morning, and you get your partner to get in the water with them instead of you? Good bonding time for them too, everyone’s a winner.