When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
Just like I’m a grazer when it comes to food, I believe in small, frequent stints of me- time. I love human interaction but I’m a major introvert and find the hardest part of being a mum is the complete lack of solitude. Those kids just want to talk to me all the time and I need to be quiet at times or I lose it!
My piano is my favourite form of me-time. I only need 5 minutes here and there to recharge me. Often it’s with somebody losing their shit on the floor next to me but I can zone it out when I play. I also live in books. Sometimes I put the kids in front of the tv, jump on the bed with my book and hope for the best. Again, I only need 10 minutes of quiet reading to come out feeling brand new.
What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?
My self care is really anything that involves being quiet. If I can read, listen/play music, op shop or have a glass of wine, I’m good. Did I mention wine?
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
My best advice is to grab 5 minutes frequently. You don’t need long stints, but you do need to listen to yourself when you’re getting close to your limit. Taking 5 minutes here and there is an important thing to model for your kids too. I’ll often tell mine that I just need to be quiet for 10 minutes and that I’ll be lying on my bed. Of course they follow me and inevitably need something or start a fight, but I stand strong and say I won’t be able to help them until my break time is finished. I just bought an egg timer for them that goes for 10 minutes and I’ll turn it over and say, you can’t come in until all the sand has gone to the bottom. I want them to learn how to self-regulate that way too. So I hope modelling that behaviour for them is the best way to instil that.
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