When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
The last time I really had what I would consider “me time” was a day and a half ago. I spent it doing a 24-minute Pilates session at home. Orchestrating getting to a gym or studio right now is difficult with a small baby who feeds on demand, so gentle YouTube workouts are my go-to when there’s a few minutes to spare.
What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?
Right now, having a shower feels like self-nurture, to be honest… but I will often use organic essential oil blends afterwards to make more of a ritual of it.
Pilates or yoga/stretching is something I am trying to incorporate into my daily routine again, but I would say that it’s more like a 5 day per week thing at the moment.
I have also started making lemon & ginger tea to start my day, something I used to do quite religiously. I use either a squeeze of organic lemon juice or a couple of slices of lemon, plus 3 or 4 thin slices of fresh ginger, steeping them in hot water until the “tea” cools slightly to become warm. I drink it before ingesting anything else for the day.
Eating home cooked food and eating well is something I prefer to do generally, however sometimes practicing self care means buying a veggie burger and taking a night off kitchen duty!
In time I hope to get back to body brushing/long yoga practices/meditation/unbroken sleep of at least 8 hours. Until then, these are the little things I can manage on a regular basis.
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
I accept help when it is offered. I am lucky to have my parents visiting from Australia right now and if they, or my husband’s parents offer to take the older children for a play date or cuddle baby Oliver while he sleeps, then I gratefully accept the assistance, knowing also that it is nice for the children to develop close bonds with their grandparents. My husband is luckily an extremely involved co-parent, and helps tremendously in all aspects of the children’s lives. He has a career too, so it’s a balancing act for both of us to be engaged in the things we love/need to do whilst also leaving some space for down-time, but we we work around things together to allow each other short kid-free breaks (even if they’re just a few minutes). I will also accept that there are somethings on my daily to-do list that will remain undone. I can stress myself out over ticking every box, or I can prioritise and go easier on myself. This is something that I have really had to practice. And I certainly wasn’t able to “let go” when my first baby was born. I am far more relaxed this time around. Yes, it’s busy here (and sometimes a bit chaotic), but I try not to add more stress or pressure to my life by carrying around unrealistic expectations. Keeping in mind that a happy mama is a “good” mama helps to keep “me” on my list of priorities.