When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
As I have two very young children and a full-time career, it is difficult to squeeze in me-time, to be honest.
I try to fit in me-time whenever I have some time, even if it’s only half an hour – a coffee in my favorite coffee bar, just on my own or a long bath in the evening, when the kids are asleep. My days are always filled with a lot of noise and activities going on, therefore I really appreciate the silence. No TV, no talking, just a good book and a glass of wine. That’s definitely me-time as well!
I really try to have these little moments a couple of times a week – I absolutely need that to recharge my batteries.
Once or twice a year, I escape town with a couple of friends. No kids, no work, just quality time with the girls. It doesn’t even matter where we go, as long as we have fun together! A couple of months back, we went on a short ski-trip and it had this amazing spa in the hotel. It was so relaxing!
What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?
That depends on how much time I get 🙂 As an introvert, just being left alone in silence for a while, is very relaxing. It doesn’t really matter where or when.
If I get more time, I just love shopping (it frees up my head, really!), reading a good book, having a coffee on my own. My husband and I also regularly try to have activities without the kids – restaurant with friends, to the movies, a city trip…
My youngest son is a terrible sleeper, so the ultimate way to self-care is a good night of sleep. Even though it is really difficult to leave the kids with somebody else, I really need to do it every now and then, just to recharge. Luckily we have the best family to help us, they are always happy to have the boys for a stay-over!
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
What works for me is realising that it is only for a short couple of years that the children need this much attention from their mother (and father). So instead of being frustrated about the lack of me-time, I just go with the flow and take every opportunity I get to have me-time. If that means that the laundry is not done, ok, fair enough. It is absolutely not easy for me, as a perfectionist, to let things go, and I am still learning! But it’s definitely something that my children and husband teached me :-).
Another thing that works for our family is good planning ahead and clear communication. Every weekend, we put the calendars together and discuss the week ahead. I just tell my husband when I need time alone, he does the same, and we make it happen. Me-time feels even better when you know that the children are in good hands and everything is organised! 🙂