When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
The last time I had a big chunk of me-time was about a month ago when my husband had unexpected time off from work and I made a last-minute hair appointment. I had a 3 hours to myself in a chair with a coffee and my phone.
What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?
I like to make YouTube videos. One of the best things I’ve ever done as a mom for self-care was to start a YouTube channel. I started watching YouTube during late-night feeds with my first baby. By the time he was 18 months I was lonely from moving to a new city, feeling anxious and just not myself. I gathered the courage to start my channel and the simple act of making a video -creating something- erased my anxiety almost completely. I was shocked at what a stress-relief it was for me. I have come to think we are all creators and have a need to produce something of value in this world. Taking the time to personally craft a video is the most valuable me-time for me right now because I’m passionate about the medium. I love the me-time I spend getting my hair done, spending time chatting with my girlfriends, and being physically active too- and I do think these things help me feel more human- but making videos fills my cup up most.
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
I would say if you’re like me, on a budget, husband working his tail off and without family near to look after the kids for a moment, try to find the money wherever possible to buy yourself time off. I use a reputable sitting agency which pre-screens sitters (new to the city means we don’t know any sitters) and I hire them out about once every 2 months or so for a 4 hour break. It’s expensive for us but worth it. I don’t feel guilty about the break because I do feel like it’s necessary for my health and thus my family’s. There are times when I needed this more than bi-monthly when my son was going through a more challenging phase. Fortunately, at this point in my parenting career, I feel like I have a good sense of when I need to tap out and I no longer feel like I don’t deserve to do so.