When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
Everyone’s idea of “me-time” is different, for some it might be getting a massage or retail therapy but my kind of me- time normally involves sweating it up at the gym. I find exercise does wonders as far as clearing the mind and helping me to better deal with daily stresses and the best way to guarantee that session is normally to schedule it in to your weekly diary.I train every Friday with one of my girlfriends and that helps to keep me accountable and it’s a great chance to have a good catch up while we are at it. I also have a guitar lesson once a week, when Sunny was a baby I used to have the teacher come to the house because it was easier. Learning to play guitar is something that I always wished I’d taken up at younger age and I want Sunny to see that it never too late to start something new and I also always dreamed of our children growing up in a musical household.
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
When Sunny was a baby and would have his naps during the day I would normally spend that time catching up on house work and I barely rested, which I regret now and wish that I took that opportunity to rest and have some me-time more regularly.
I think it’s important that you don’t lose sight of what you loved doing before you became a mum and not forget to look after yourself. A happy mum normally results in a happier child, I personally find when you take opportunities to do something for myself then I am a happier and more attentive mum afterwards . I hope by doing this that Sunny will see that he is not the ruler of my universe (all the time) and understand that he cannot only do the things that he enjoys in life and that sometimes we have to make compromises. So, if for example we have to go to the gym and he will go into the crèche there we will then do something he will enjoy afterwards like go to the park.
I believe that scheduling something in weekly that you like to do for yourself or even just making it a daily ritual that you clock out for 30 min-1 hr once a week when your child is sleeping or watching TV , to just pick up a book , meditate, do a home workout or whatever it is you like to do will make you much more accountable to the idea of “me-time”. I always wondered what I actually did with all my time before having a child, now the days seemed to be filled with so many different activities, sports and park dates.There certainly is a new set of organisational skills that I have obtained since becoming a mum. If there are 24 hrs in a day that have been hijacked by a little person, surely we are allowed to claim back even 30 minutes of that day? that’s not too much to ask is it?