When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
I try to have me-time everyday and it happens unless the kids are sick. Some days I say to the kids they can watch an hour of TV (don’t judge me – it’s better than having a stressed mummy) so I get to do some things – other days they are getting looked after or if none of the above I have me-time after they go to sleep at night time.
Most days it involves meditating and doing some yoga. Other times it involves drawing, doing my Soulpreneur course work or reading.
What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?
Definitely mediation, yoga or just painting my nails or giving myself a facial.
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
My mum looks after the little one on Wednesdays while my older one is at school, but sometimes that can’t be relied upon and that’s when I get work in. My husband looks after the kids a little on the weekend.
During the week I rely on ABC for Kids or YouTube clips for a bit of respite when I really need to have some time to myself – sometimes it’s everyday for a week and then some weeks they’re hardly watching it. The kids aren’t complaining and it hasn’t seemed to affect their imagination and ability to play one bit. Night times I can get a bit of me-time as well.
My advice is don’t beat yourself up – do what you need to, to have some space and also don’t feel guilty asking for it. I struggled to ask for time, I felt guilty and anxious, but the more I did it, the better I felt about it. Now I don’t feel guilty at all because I know that my emotional and mental health is the most important thing to look after because if I don’t I’m not going to be a good mother.
I’m fully aware that putting kids in front of screens is not a good thing, but on balance I don’t think it affects them as long as you don’t overdo it. If you just want a quiet cup of tea, a 1/2 hour TV in front of an educational show isn’t going to hurt them. Before I had kids I was adamant they weren’t going to be watching TV at all. The more I felt like I was falling apart and on the really tired days it has been a saviour. I had to sometimes cuddle my girls and lie down and sleep while they’re watching ABC Kids otherwise I couldn’t function. The older they get the more they can understand and play by themselves. Whatever you choose to do – DO NOT JUDGE YOURSELF! We don’t live in a society where we have our tribe, our aunties and mums and friends in our close vicinity anymore so we have to rely on ourselves to do whatever we can to get that time or ask for that help.