When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
I actually just took some ‘me-time’ the other day and realized how overdue it was. I decided to take a few hours from work (despite my deadlines and to-do lists) and went to the gym, did a home-facial that I’ve wanted to try for months now and also bought a few things we needed for the house. I also cleaned my home and watered my patio plants! (Don’t laugh at me — yes, I actually find joy in catching up on housework., it helps me focus in other areas of my life…) It doesn’t sound like a lot, but after doing those trivial things I felt much more ‘together’ and organized to re-approach my responsibilities.
What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?
I do love laying on my couch and watching TV… ha! (Can’t help it — I love television. And, zoning out and thinking about ‘nothing’ helps me reset.) I’ve also learned that I need to give myself breaks away from my phone frequently during the day — excess screen time (scrolling Facebook, responding to emails, updating my Instagram, texting) has been making me anxious and crazy lately. I find that, with the weather getting warmer, I want to spend more time with my daughters and ignore my phone (this is why it sometimes takes me 24 hours to respond to a text message). I’m learning to listen to myself when I start to feel like I need to take work-goals down a notch — I really do feel a positive difference in my motivation when I just stop myself from working the usual grind.
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
You must be vigilant and unapologetic. In my new book, ‘FAB’ means ‘focused after baby’ and I talk about how I stayed connected and aware of certain to-do’s that fed my mind and spirit as a first-time mom years ago. Now that my daughters are older, I’m learning to stay committed to being focused and claiming certain self-care needs to stay centered, rested and happiest as a busy working mom. I used to ask my husband, “Is it okay if I quickly run out to the store/gym without the girls?” Now, instead of asking, I say, “I’m going to quickly run out — make sure the girls are safe, I’ll be back soon.” Making a statement (instead of asking) asserts that you’re not going to compromise something in the name of physical or mental health. I’m learning that I’ve compromised self-care too much… I’m working on being more committed to taking care of myself in small ways every day (even if it’s just telling my daughters that mommy needs a little bit of alone time — they’re older now, so they get it).
Jill Simonian is author of the new, mind & spirit confidence-building book for first-time moms The FAB Mom’s Guide: How to Get Over the Bump & Bounce Back Fast After Baby. She’s also the Parenting Lifestyle Contributor for CBS Los Angeles News and creator of TheFABMom.com.
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