When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
I went out for a three hour dinner with a friend last week, had fries + greens, drank a Aperol Spritz, and talked the night away. It was perfection!
What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?
Being alone is my number one self-care practice.
Between my podcast, consulting, and speaking…I’m always talking and engaging with people. I love my job so much, but I refuel by being alone. Which is crazy hard to do with a toddler! You’re never really alone. My husband and I have a deal that I get to be alone a few hours every weekend and he takes our son out or I go to a cafe or park and just chill, ALONE. I come back refueled and a better momma.
Other self-care practices that are my favourites: taking a proper shower with good smelling things, putting my pajamas on at 6pm, and doing some type of movement (even if that means a YouTube yoga video in my bedroom).
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
Every momma’s situation is different, so it’s hard to give advice. But across the board, I think we all can ask for/get help more. I know we think we can do it all, but there is no shame in asking for help. It could be as simple as asking your neighbor to hang in your house for an hour after your kid goes to bed so you can take a walk or finding a gym with childcare and go to the locker room and read for an hour (they don’t need to know you aren’t working out!) or if your budget is tight, splitting a sitter with a friend that also has kiddos. We need to feel less shame and guilt around getting help.
I make time in my schedule by asking for help and also saying “no” to things I don’t really want to do. Does my husband and I both need to go to that birthday party? Nope. So he’ll go, I’ll get time to myself, and then take my son to the park later that day. And when my in-laws offer to take my son for a few days…I say yes. I ask for help and accept it whenever offered!