When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
I have family visiting at the moment and my husband and I were able to sneak off and leave the kids with them for a couple of hours.
We brought a bottle of champagne and some cheese and sat in the sand dunes on the beach. We are currently between houses and living out of suitcases and in close confines with two little ones for two weeks so it has pretty stressful and it felt incredibly decadent and carefree and fun and something we would have done before kids – nice to connect again on that level when life can so often tend to be about logistics and bills and work.
What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?
Be gentle with yourself and speak gently to yourself – this period of life is incredibly hard and mum guilt can be relentless but pat yourself on the back and let yourself know you are doing the best you can. Making self care a priority is essential for me to be able to care for my family and support my busy work life and running a business so I try to make this my number 1 priority without guilt – if I fall over so does everything else. Good quality nutritious food is an essential, as is finding small pockets of time for movement (I love the Nike training app for short 15min HIIT workouts, and short online yoga sessions) and time to laugh and relax socially with family and friends. As a herbalist and naturopath I also love to use supportive adaptogen herbs as teas and in tinctures – withania, holy basil, lemonbalm, licorice, chamomile, lavender and rhodiola and some of my faves. These sorts of herbs have been used by women for centuries to support health and well being. I believe it is all about trying to maintain a balance.
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
Me-time can be such a tricky thing to fit into a busy life (I had no idea how busy things were going to get!) and I always talk to my clients about the small pockets of time you can find in a day to get your me-time such as a quiet bath, a cup of tea outside on the grass, meeting up with a friend for a chat or a quick 15 minute yoga/stretching session – aligning those with quiet moments in the day can be tricky however getting the smaller moments in is so much less overwhelming than trying to get in 1 hour blocks for a yoga class or focusing on a long uninterrupted meditation session. Small periods of focusing on breath can be incredibly calming and centering. I also have a girlfriend with who we swap a night each month where I watch her children and she goes out with her partner for a date night and then she returns the favour – without local family support this is such a great way for me to connect with my husband.