When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
I have “me time” every single day. Because I’m a firm believer that every single Mama MUST have something “other” in her life – be that yoga, coffee with friends, art – SOMETHING separate into which she can fully submerge herself and receive nourishment, “me time” is built into my routine and something I rarely, if ever, sacrifice. Obviously life does not always go as planned; sometimes that me time lasts no longer than 20 minutes, if, say, my little one won’t nap. But there’s always time before bed, and I usually will read for at least 30 minutes before going to sleep. I also paint nearly every single day. Sometimes it’s a struggle to get any traction, but even if I can make space to tend to my soul for even a few minutes, it’s better than nothing, better than letting that frustration and resentment build up and affect time with my daughter.
What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?
Reading is absolutely one of my most beloved hobbies. I have trouble sleeping at night, having an overactive brain that likes to swirl in endless loops, so reading helps to quiet my thoughts and help me drift off. Also, anything creative really, especially painting and writing and collecting falling treasures on the ground – leaves are my favorite.
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
I somewhat answered this question in my lengthy first answer – I tend to get very passionate about subjects in which I believe! – but additionally, I would remind and encourage Mamas that me time is NOT selfish! It is, in fact, the OPPOSITE of selfishness. No human is any good to another human, be it a little one or a grown one, if they are completely empty and thin and exhausted and depleted of nourishment. The cup must be full if it is to be poured out. Without a flicker of doubt I know I am the best version of myself when I have taken measures to get enough sleep, feed my body (even if it means I stand over the sink eating it), and fight for slivers in the days to tend to my heart and soul. Like any routine, it must be established with intention and met with consitency, which is hard as a Mama and all the predictability that comes with motherhood, but it is WORTH IT.