When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
I’m having it right now, the kids are watching TV and I am answering emails in my PJ’s next to them on the couch. We live a very lucky life, most days include a beach trip, a catch up with friends or a coffee at our favourite cafe. Our little family spends a lot of time at home and it is often filled with friends and family. My ‘me time’ is seldom solitary, I fill my bucket by being around lovely people.
What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?
I am a big fan of spreading myself thick (I wrote about it here) and that is probably my favourite hack. It’s basically just the opposite of spreading yourself thin – and it’s the best trick I know. But also, just being ‘me’ and knowing what that means is really helpful. Some people feel relaxed when they sit in a hairdressers chair for two hours or get a pedicure, not me though. I would prefer to paint my own nails at 10pm whilst watching trash TV and drinking wine. So that’s what I do.
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
Don’t put too much pressure on the time you have free. It’s not the first hour you have ever had and it won’t be the last. I remember feeling like I had to really honor that time, like I had a to-do list of relaxing things and they all had to be worth it and to be honest, it stressed me out. I am rarely by myself so I may be the wrong person to ask but I make sure that my kids know that when we are together, it’s not always about them and I make sure to spend lots of time with other mums who I connect with. I’m a big believer in ‘the village’ and it’s amazing how much your life (and hands) can be freed-up when you share the load with the other mothers in your life.