When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
I tell you what, if someone had asked me what I considered “me-time” before becoming a Mum, it would have been a very cut and dry answer. But my-oh-my how times have changed. Me-time these days is often the simplest of things. Uninterrupted showers, car trips alone with my fave tunes turned right up, time late at night when my husband and daughter are asleep and everything is quiet and still, I often watch a movie, read, sew – anything I want really and even work days when my daughter is with her grandparents and I’m around other adults and a predictable schedule – HEAVEN.
The really soul enriching, energy replenishing, me-time is the evenings my husband comes home early so I can go to my Kinesiologist, movie nights with girlfriends, getting to a yoga or meditation class or popping down to a local cafe by myself to have a coffee in peace.
I try to prioritise something like this every couple of weeks at least. I’m my best me when I have, so I know it’s vital to keeping me sane, grounded and happy. The most recent thing I did was go and see Danielle Laporte speak when she was in Melbourne, and I loved every single second.
What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?
I consider a lot of my “me-time” – self care, but also things like my weekly face-mask on a Friday night. I’m also obsessed with essential oils which have become an integral part of my daily self-care. After I shower I make up an oil blend that I rub from head to toe.
On days I feel particularly BLAH, an invigorating or uplifting blend does the trick, likewise if I’m feeling very wound up or too ‘in my head’, a nice grounding or balancing blend helps anchor me into my day.
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
The advice I would give all Mamas struggling to create “me-time”, is to firstly step back from your days (which I know can feel so overwhelming and exhausting) and look back on them from a different perspective. Start looking for the moments in the day you are choosing things that don’t fill up your cup, (so to speak) and replace them with things that are soul-enriching and replenishing for you. That THING is not the same for everyone, so don’t go comparing your “me-time” to anyone else. If you want to watch that reality tv show you love with a nice hot cuppa, then DO THAT, if you want to go and lay in the backyard, catching some sun, with your favourite book DO THAT. As far as those lengthier, “See you tomorrow kids” times, plan ahead as much as you can, make it a priority, but equally jump on those times that someone might all of a sudden be free to mind the kids. Go see a movie, book a massage, head to the shops for some retail therapy without being in a rush.
OH and the cleaning can wait. Coming from someone who has inherited her Mothers ‘don’t let anyone know someone lives here’ tidiness, this was big for me. I thought I had to get it all done, and don’t get me wrong – I love a clean house and certainly feel my best when it’s tidy and organised, but I’d find myself becoming so resentful of just life in general and ALL THE THINGS. Leaving the toys on the floor, dishes on the sink, pile of laundry until tomorrow and instead prioritising self-care has always had me come back to those things with a happy heart rather than just feeling like I’m drowning in chores.