When was the last time you had “me-time” and how did you spend that time?
I have always had a hard time asking for time away. The mom guilt is STRONG! But after suffering some serious mommy meltdowns over the past year and a half especially, I have realized how detrimental not having time away is to me being the Mom that I want to be. And I don’t ASK my husband for the time away anymore, I schedule it and I tell him what’s happening (well in advance). The last REAL “me time” I had…I went to a music festival! Unthinkable, right?! It was incredible. Time with a girlfriend, eating without sticky fingers swiping the best parts of my meals, sleeping without little voices waking me up before the sun to ask for juice…and unlimited wine in coffee mugs. The mom guilt crept back into my mind throughout the weekend, but was put to rest with a simple phone call home…or a shot 😉
What are some of your favourite ways to practice self care?
It is a recent revelation for me that self care and me-time doesn’t have to mean going away. I realized that I practice self care every day. It’s the time that I take for myself to do my makeup. It’s the time that I take for myself to mix up an espresso. I’ve been diligent in setting that time aside…all while having my children 10 feet away from me. I do my makeup every morning at the kitchen table while they watch cartoon and eat their breakfast. Sure, the routine is interrupted numerous times at the behest of requests for more toast, but it gets done, and it sets me up to feel even just a little bit more ready for my day.
What advice would you give to mamas struggling to create “me-time”? How do you make time in your schedule for yourself?
Creating me-time is an adjustment for all Moms. Some incorporate it almost right away, some don’t figure it out for years. I think, though, that it’s becoming more and more apparent to all of us how overwhelmingly NECESSARY it is.
I acknowledge the fact that not all Moms are equipped with the support that I have. Single Moms, Moms whose partners work away, Moms without family nearby. All of those situations make finding time for yourself that much harder.
But it’s not impossible.
WE MAKE TIME FOR WHAT’S IMPORTANT TO US!
Girls, it’s survival. It’s necessary.
Like I mentioned above, time for yourself doesn’t need to mean a weekend away or a girls night at the bar. It can simply mean popping your kids in front of the TV and sneaking away to read a chapter of a book. It can mean saying NO to commitments that don’t align with what you need and taking that time, instead, to fill YOUR tank up.
Creating boundaries in your life, both for your kids and “outside” influences.
“This is Mommy’s yoga time, and I will help you put those googly eyes on your paper in 7 minutes when my yoga is over.”
Bonus? Kids seeing Mommy making time for herself is healthy for them too. They may resist at first but eventually…they get it.